On top of all of it, I am without a job and my car does not work so for the past year, Ive been driving one of his cars. He didnt take everything and he left his vehicles. One, he had a restraining order against. He ruined my friendship he with my friend. Because I am a strong willed person & when I didnt agree with them the argument would always esculate to where they would end the relationship. I was with a Narcissist who had several addictions..We dated few weeks, lived together almot 3 months..He became more physically abusive after I broke up and tried to avoid him..I felt stalked by him through his lies and he turned others against me, he harassed me with text,voicemail and emails.Had to block him and many people knows on a social network..I found out later, I was not the only woman he did this to. I have dealt with deaths easier than this mental/ emotional manslaughter. I hope this helps. I was also without a job at this stage. He treated me as if I was completely optional in his life. It causes great problems in our society today. Its all in the same boat, because they all do the same things. He had completely ignored my requests for a phone call right before a trip he went on. To try and break the no contact rule. We had so much in common and pretty soon he had moved in and was paying my bills for the most part. Jus they out. Id hide the ongoing relationship and thought if Id change I could make this work. I got married at 18 and dealt with his criminality infidelity and lies. Sometimes you may find advice from people in the strangest of places. i also come across one particular testimony,it was about a woman called Sonia,she testified about how he brought back her Ex lover in less than 7 days, and at the end of her testimony she dropped High Priest OLORUN s e-mail address. Against my better judgement I had to rescind the order to get the divorce. After reading all these,I decided to give it a try. Video him verbally assaulting you. He kept telling me sign my rights away completely.. but he wont care for his son. Then when I wake up in the middle of the night I hear the door shut. What he said is insignificant (as you know, he is NOT a credible source to judge ANYONE, therefore his opinion does not matter). He still flies to my state to exercise his visitation, so he can maintain contact with me. Dont do what I have done. I wish you wouldve filed a police report when this guy raped you, thats exactly what he did! I dont even date and I am COMPLETELY HAPPY and I truly have the Peace of God that ..no lie. I now believe this to be true . . and while they might say they have changed this is only a ploy to get you back under their thumb. Stand up for yourself and don't let him get away with this behavior. I have been able to sort through a lot of truth and I take responsibility for my part in this and I am working to be a better me. The next day, he shows up and starts cutting my grasswhy? Before I went to bed every night I, would send him love, light, and all the warmth I could muster, although, sometimes it was very difficult. All of it.. At first I was texting him why baby? Then he yelled at me when I called him after I had messaged him a bunch of times. His rage was undescribable. Another way to tell is to suggest getting someone to pray over them, I bet they will like hell! He met his match. The straw that broke the camels back was that I created a fake profile on a dating website with all of my demographics, but withy fake pictures attached. thats the trap. Communicating with a narcissist gives them power, so take it away. ( God this story will go on forever just a fair warning.). Im COMPLETELY RUINED snd cannot bring myself back. He would never write or leave a note on my car or front door. For 4 yrs I thought it was me. I said dont you see how totally disrespectful that is, how could you? Your friends/family members testimony can help. How to Break a Narcissist's Heart: An Easy Guide to Revenge - wikiHow I was in a 2 year relationship with an amazing man. I was so angry. Its been quite some time since you wrote your story on the board. With me, he was literally just as mad or worse, 14 yrs later, than he was the day I left him! This is another red flag if you are dealing with or dating a narcissist. Im dealing with the mommas boy that wants to relive his momma trauma w women. He constantly tells me he has all this dirt on me to take my son from me, but his mother says my son couldnt stay there, and to be honest in a sick twisted way I think she is my saving grace because she doesnt want anything to do with me or my son. Always a Hero or a Victim. I got married when I was 21, my wife and I have two sons, over the age of 21. The only way they can change is seriously an exorcism or having Devine interventionno lie! There is one last thing to remember, and for me, this was the reward for riding the rollercoaster of a narcissistic relationship. Thankyou LG xx. I found out about another woman and didnt move in with him. This demon is brought in through sin such as porn, lies, sexual addictions. I know you can do it! Im truly ruined and dead. what makes a narcissist tick after break up He is sitting behind me now at my daughters recital and I want to turn around and hit him but what I know is he is clueless. They cannot stand you giving your attention to anyone (or anything) else, even your children. She kept telling me that SHE is part of the family, i.e. I have been trying to get a divorce for over a year now from my N and though there are many reasons why the process is taking so long, he has moved back in with his mother and has temporary custody of our daughter. Ive also been having great difficulty trying to come to terms with the fact that virtually every aspect of who I was when I first met her in 2007 has been completely destroyed. He now visits Cuba regularly and I understand he has a couple of chicas there that he supports monthly with a few bucks . My love life turned out to be something great after i contacted great mutaba through his details via email [greatmutaba@ gmail. And i did just that and it worked will for me. Breaking Up With A Narcissist: How To Get Through It And Recover so he can never say he never had a chance to be a dad. While you wont get any closure, consider yourself lucky if it happens. But do narcissistic people respond to breakups differently than those who are less narcissistic? I can literally say my life is perfect because all i need in my life was my family and i had it back with a stronger love bond. Thank you for your post! I iam going threw the same thing right now we have been together for 3 and married for 1 and it has been the worst year of my life. I have my own bank account, I have a JOINT mortgage-free home. She realized that it was her dad. A version of you thats not at all close to who you really are. I returned home but didnt tell her that I went away. Dont have your info, open to a friendship, but I need space! How does a person deal with all this crap when you cant run from the situation? As I describe in an earlier piece on narcissism: Given their customary drivenness, its not uncommon for them to rise to positions of power and influence, as well as amass a fortune." 8 months later I am living a much better, more peaceful life and he slyly has found a way to get in touch with me. He just worked me harder..I put into place the no contact then after feeling more healed I contacted him and placed boundries on parenting issues ..Havent heard anything back not surprised at all . Last of all learn to laugh again. Before I was pregnant, he once rang my doorbell at 11pm, my bestie/roomy (a guy) and I were watching tv and wondering who the hell is ringing the doorbell this late. the last thing you want is to be listening to another Narc for a prolonged period of time. He was trying to mirror me by pretending to be someone he is not. These personalities don't exist if they have no one to manipulate and control. It went well with us and we are always happy. He asked- what did the doctor say? As I began to tell him that she said that I needed to relax, he drove my car into the bumper of the car in front of us. into the relationship, I realized he was with a married woman all along and 4 years prior to meeting me. Make yourself a better version. It really irked me! You are right. He loved that girl so much, she theater him like shit. You just survived an encounter with a very deadly predator. To all of you women who have been the official girl friend/wife and who maybe discovers an affair or two: BEWARE! Even if he is in the relationship for power or control, he still feels immense pain and sadness. I felt like my life was about to end i almost committed suicide, i was emotionally down for a very long time. The best way in which to make your intentions known is to be firm, direct, and absolutely clear in establishing your boundaries. so do I. my daughter is so happy with me. 5.2 Wastes Time. If I break the No Contact rule in any way shape or form it will feed his addiction, I will have become supply again. he will never change even if he wants to Thank you. focus on you being a good stable parent if your in contact with him do the grey rock method as much as I hated playing him at his own game I had to for our. He wants to buy a house and have a life with me. He immediately called me and tried to convince me he was coming, which he also said like an hour before, but I was pissed he was not respecting my time so I blew him off. Maintain this even if the narcissist tries to reconnect with you months or years later. He has already started his manipulative behavior patterns on her and has moved on to his next victim who is 25 and has no children. ..YOU are your GREATEST INVESTMENT.!!.. All during the relationship, he has accused me of cheating and lying when I have done no such thing. zombies. Even though, chances are they never expressed this to you," says Greenberg. Our son has an 19 yrs old child he raised on his own and he is a great dad. hope my story helps. Lying and covering up the awful things the abuser does. Doing so is a constituent element in their notorious habit of not simply using others but objectifying themwhich, in this sense, almost has a certain childlike innocence to it. 28 hours later, my boyfriend came back to me crying and begging for my forgiveness. Hoovering. Ive been in a relationship with a 36 year old N and Im 28. How to Piss Off a Narcissist in 12 Surprisingly Easy Ways?